By Sophia Godkin
Have you ever wanted something to fit so badly that you solicited help from your dearest friends to make it happen?
Picture this: New York City, Loehmann’s Department Store, Circa 2001. I’m lying on the narrow bench in the fitting room with the greatest pair of skinny jeans pulled up to about mid-thigh, my two peace fingers looped in and tugging on the loop on the right side of the jeans and my best friend’s peace fingers looped in and tugging on the loop on the left side. She was a big believer that we could make it happen. So was I.
Even if you never got into a full supine position with the hope of putting on a pair of jeans, I know you can relate…
Keep in mind, we tend to really value our appearance here in NYC, especially when we’re in the prime of our teenage years, and this was a full decade before I ever heard the terms “surrender,” “trust” and “let go.”
It would be another three years on top of that fitting room incident before the long-awaited realization that One Size Does Not Fit All would dawn on me. Whether it comes to our wardrobe, our diet, our exercise regimen, or how we spend our time, we each need something a little different to keep us smiling and thriving.
Why did it take so long? Well, sometimes experiencing first-hand why so many things don’t fit leads you to really understand and appreciate what does.
If that doesn’t fit, then what does?
Having tried on the way-too-small pair of jeans, daily Yoga or Pilates, the Paleo diet, low-fat, dairy-free, gluten-free, and fun-free eating, and all the supplements in the world you can imagine, I was well aware of what didn’t fit and what didn’t work.
It’s one thing to know what doesn’t work. But what does?
It’s referred to as “personalized health” and it’s based on the notion that you are a completely unique person… genetically, biochemically, metabolically, psychologically. What you need to be healthy and happy is not the same as what your friend, sister, parent, partner or co-worker needs to be healthy and happy. Hence you (and every one of us) benefit immensely from recommendations that are personalized and aim to get everything from your tiniest cells to your largest organ (ahem ahem… your skin) feeling good.
From decades upon decades of research, we know without a doubt that food, exercise, social relationships, work and rest are the most influential factors affecting our capacity for utmost health and happiness in any given moment. Luckily, we now have technology like ph360 to point us in the right direction and the revolutionary ShaeTM to take care of it all for us!
And here’s what personalized health, the approach that fits, has to say about it.
- The food you eat – or don’t eat – is vastly important. And while there are general recommendations that we can all follow, health truly arises when your body obtains an optimal balance of nutrients given its unique needs. If you’re making a salad with the same ingredients every day, your body may be yearning for you to switch it up.
- Exercise is a key ingredient for health. But more important than getting exercise is doing the right amount and type of exercise for your body. If you don’t enjoy doing burpees, there’s likely a good reason for it.
- Social relationships are a fundamental part of our human existence and of our ability to experience health and livelihood. What’s important is understanding how much, or how little, social interaction you need day to day and moreover – spending that time with the kinds of people and in the kinds of relationships that nourish your body and brain. If you’re repeatedly less than excited to hang out with a friend, pause and consider whether this friendship is one that still nourishes you today.
- Work, like social relationships, can be a great source of pleasure or a great source of stress. What’s key is doing the things you’re good at, that bring you joy as you do them, and that give your life a sense of meaning and purpose. If you feel like the work you do supports your life and your life supports the work you do, then congratulations, you’ve blurred the artificial lines between work and life, and are probably quite a joy to be around in those after-work hours!
- What comes up must come down. For optimal health and well-being, it’s important that our neurotransmitters refuel, so that all the parts of our body they communicate with have plenty of opportunity to rest, rejuvenate, and heal. But let’s expand our definition of rest for a moment. Depending on the preferences of your unique and brilliant brain, along with sleep, any number of activities – spending time alone reading a book, taking a gentle stroll in nature, listening to or playing music, doing a 100 piece puzzle, having a philosophical conversation with a friend – can all be wonderful ways to rejuvenate.
The Bad News?
There really is none. Well, except that for some of us ‘One Size Does Not Fit All’ means that we’ll no longer feel inclined to borrow our friend’s jeans, diet, or exercise program. No biggie. Because you can get your own diet and exercise plan and buy your own pair of jeans – ones that fit and work for you!
The Good News?
You can stop wondering why those jeans didn’t fit, why that diet didn’t solve your digestive issues, why that other diet left you feeling even more sluggish than before, or why you didn’t lose even one pound from all that exercise. They were not made with you in mind and heart. And you can start experiencing personalized health and happiness… the kind of health and happiness that works and feels good because it’s made for you.
What to do next
- Thank yourself. All the seemingly “failed” attempts weren’t actual failures. They led you here, to the experience where everything you do and are, and everything that is required to keep you full of health and bliss, is unique to you.
- Thank them. Thank your friends, family members, coworkers, and your health posse – your family physician, holistic practitioner, nutritionist, acupuncturist, chiropractor, personal trainer, and anyone who ever volunteered information, or whom you came to for advice, on how to feel more healthy and vibrant. Just like you, they are each always doing the best they can with the knowledge and insights they have at the time.
Get personalized. Get into ph360 and soon the revolutionary new ShaeTM and find out what foods, exercises, and ways of engaging your mind are best for you, and the types of relationships, work and rest activities that fit you. Like a glove. 🙂